Wednesday, December 1, 2010
19 Months - Came in like a lion and went out like a lamb
Friday, November 26, 2010
Emma Elise Timmerman
As some of you know, one of my biggest regrets after losing Luke was not confirming his gender before he was born, and not publicly calling him by name. I personally was calling him Luke and believed in my heart that he was a boy, but we were waiting for his birth to confirm his gender and announce his name. This element of surprise that we were hoping to have for ourselves and our friends and family in retrospect seems like a silly game to me now. I sincerely regret that I took for granted that my baby would be born alive and that we used a human life for the fun of a surprise. Luke was alive inside of me for 35 weeks - he deserved to be acknowledged and known with a name by the world. The hurt of this is something I will probably deal with for the rest of my life. I have never experienced a regret like this before - something so major and that I can never change. So I will not let it happen again if I can help it. My children will be named as soon as we have a confirmed gender at our 18 week ultrasound, and then as soon as we decide on a name.
This is a very painful subject for me, and I know it is based on my own personal regrets and issues. It is tough though when the majority of society waits to name their child at their birth and makes it known to me that they do not agree with how Will and I are naming a child before we physically see them. It is human nature to judge things that you do not yourself understand and I get that. I am guilty of judging what I do not understand either. However, going through the experience of losing a child who you very much expected and assumed would live has opened my eyes to the fact that each person is making their own way in this world. I do not know how or why they came to the conclusions they have about how they live their life and it is not up to me to judge them on their choices. I also do not know what personal issues they are dealing with and can only assume then that they are making the choice that is right for them. In this post I am by no means saying that I believe everyone should name their children and find out their gender before they are born. That is a highly personal choice and one that each individual has to make based on their own circumstances and experiences. From where I am coming from, this is the choice I make and will forever make in regards to naming my children. I can only hope that my friends and family can go easy on judging me for my choices and the people that don't know me as well to accept that sometimes people do things differently then they would and we don't have to know why or judge. I promise to try to do the same for you!
With that being said, I would like to tell you the story of Emma's name! As I have mentioned in a previous post, Will and I were convinced that Baby T Three was a boy. We had a boy's first and middle name ready to go at the time of our ultrasound, but had not agreed upon a girl name. When we heard the beautiful news that we were having a healthy baby GIRL we looked at each other and threw our hands up in the air on what to name her! Based on the background information I gave you above, the fact that we didn't have a name for our blessed baby girl was really stressing me out. We had the ultrasound last Tuesday, and by the weekend it was keeping me up at night. I feel so strongly about never making the same mistake I did with Luke, it was turning into a fear that something bad was going to happen to Emma if I didn't name her and I would have a second regret for the rest of my life. A psychiatrist I'm sure would have a field day with me and my issues on this, but this is the reality I was dealing with. After many prayers with no answers we checked out a baby name book from the library (for the second time this pregnancy!) and our plan was to go through each individual name and write down on a secret ballot each name we thought would work for Baby T Three. I got to the J's and called it a night on Saturday. My plan was to finish the next day, and then pass the book to Will to do the same. When he was finished we would compare lists, and whatever names were on both lists would be our new name pool which we would hopefully be able to narrow down from there.
Now here's where we believe Divine Intervention revealed Emma's name in a most unexpected manner. After church on Sunday, Lucy asked to color a picture. I got out her crayons and some paper and while I was sitting at the table with her and Will, consumed in my own thoughts - and worries - about what to name Baby T Three, I casually asked Lucy: "What should we name your baby sister?" Really not expecting any answer, and going back to my stressed out thoughts, Lucy looked up from her drawing and clearly and proudly yelled "EMMA!!!" I looked at Will and he looked at me, and then we both looked at Lucy and almost said in unison "what??" Lucy looked at both of us again with a huge smile on her face and said a little softer this time "Emma!". I looked at Will again, and he looked at me and we both started laughing. Keep in mind we don't personally know a single Emma, and have never even said the name Emma to Lucy. Where she came up with that name we can only guess. Will and I started rationalizing - did she say Elmo? After all, that is her favorite character and we were drawing Sesame Street characters before I asked Lucy what Baby T Three's name should be. Or did she combine two of her favorite words - Elmo and Mama - and come up with Emma? So we asked her if Emma was the name of her baby sister. Lucy's reply? "Yes! Emma. Mama. Tummy." At this point Will and I decided to drop it and not draw any more attention to what just transpired. A couple of minutes later I casually asked her what she was drawing a picture of and she proudly replied: "EMMA!" Okay, that caught us off guard too! Up until the ultrasound, she never really acknowledged the baby in my tummy any differently than she acknowledged the fact that in her mind everyone seemed to have a baby in their tummy. And never did she call the baby a name. Then Lucy started talking on her own. "Hair" as she was scribbling with a brown crayon. I asked her "Does Emma have brown hair?" Lucy: "Yes!" Then she started coloring with a different crayon. "Back" Lucy said. I asked her "Does Emma have a healthy back?" Lucy: "Yes!". For the rest of the day, Lucy chatted about and to Emma. She even found a soft baby doll with a rattle in it and put it to my tummy and said "Emma." I asked her if she was giving her doll to her baby sister and she proudly responded "Yes!" From that day on, she refers to that particular doll as Emma's. I suppose Will and I could have stepped in at any time and said no, Baby T Three didn't have a name yet but we held back. Something just felt right about Emma. It has always been a favorite name of mine, and Will also liked it but it never made any of our lists because it is so popular right now. We were looking for a name that wasn't in the top ten of the last decade for our little girl. But again, something just felt right about Emma and it was the first girl name since we found out we were pregnant that left us with a feeling of peace and a smile on both of our faces. That night after Lucy went to sleep talking about "beebee Emma" we agreed with Lucy that Emma would be the name of our third child. We can only wonder as to where Lucy got Emma from, and I will be the first to tell you that my thoughts are that Luke told her in a dream that her baby sister was named Emma and had a healthy back in much the same way Luke told me shortly after I found out I was pregnant with Lucy that I would be having a healthy baby girl named Lucy.
Once we agreed on Emma, the middle name was easy. We chose Elise which is a Hebrew and German derivative of Elizabeth, after me of course! Below is the picture that Lucy drew when she told us what her baby sister's name was. In case you are worried that Emma looks like a Sesame Street character, the Ernie head and the other monster head were drawn by Will before Lucy revealed to us that she was in fact drawing a family heirloom. Oops! The brown scribbles are Emma's hair, and the blue dots are Emma's eyes according to the artist. She asked us to hold her hand to write Emma's name, and then Mama's and Dada's. We then asked if she wanted to write Lucy and Luke, and she agreed.

So now you know the rest of the story as to how Baby T Three got her name! Emma Elise Timmerman. Since giving our baby a name, a great feeling of peace has come over me. No matter what happens to our baby girl - if she lives a week more or 80-some years, in my heart she has been confirmed as important enough to have a name and be a member of this world. I now fall asleep smiling as I think about my beautiful children and go over and over in my head their names... Luke Thomas, Lucy Anne and Emma Elise. God is good and I am blessed!
I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
It's a GIRL!!!

Sunday, October 31, 2010
Lucy's Second Halloween
Friday, October 29, 2010
18 Months = An Offical Grown-Up Toddler
On a final note about feet, Lucy loves dancing to the song "Happy Tappin' with Elmo." If you are going to be around us any time soon, make sure you request that Lucy dance to it because it is absolutely hilarious. It reminds me of the way the Peanuts characters dance on Charlie Brown. She gets a really serious look on her face, and then her feet start going wild while her upper body stays stationary. I'm thinking of enrolling her in either Irish Step dancing or tap dancing.
Will's birthday was this past month which brought no end of anticipation and excitement for Lucy. Her favorite song is "Happy Birthday", which she refers to as "Happy", and she loves birthday cakes and blowing out candles. She can now color pictures without eating the crayons this month, which worked out well for Will's birthday card that she is coloring below.She even is beginning to learn about her colors, and has green and orange down pretty well. When in doubt though, green is her trusted standby when asked to name a color. Here she is below helping her Dada blow out his birthday candles.
Besides loving birthday cake, her favorite new food words this past month are "donuts" and "orange juice". She loves these new words so much, she actually says them over and over as she is falling asleep. In fact, we have to designate a specific time in the future when we will get her donuts or orange juice for her to relax enough to fall asleep. For example, on a Thursday night when Lucy won't go to sleep because she keeps saying "donuts, donuts, donuts" we will break down and promise her: "Sunday after church we will go get donuts." The next morning she wakes up and tells us first thing: "Church. Donuts. Dada. Mama." She has a killer memory.
With her expanding vocabulary she is able to convey more and more how accurate her memory really is. She fills in the words now when we read her books or tell her nursery rhymes. She is so proud of this skill that she will shout the word slightly in advance of us saying it.
When reading 'Go, Dog. Go.'
Us: "Go by skates, go by bike, go by foot, run, skip-"
Lucy: "HIKE!!!"
Us: "Stop, dogs, stop, the light-"
Lucy: "RED!!!"
Us: "Go dogs, go it's-"
Lucy: "GREEN!!!"
And then there is the book 'Good Night Moon' which Lucy's favorite part to say follows us reading: "Goodnight to the little old lady whispering-" Lucy: "hush" which she whispers and says oh so sweetly.
Lucy is now stringing together her first attempt at sentences, which are only lacking the connective words. A couple of weeks ago Will took Lucy to the duck park by our house and met up with her friend Aeden and his dad. Aeden is a couple of years older than Lucy and took a spill while riding his bike. Apparently this made quite an impression on Lucy, as she has been talking about it ever since, saying: "Aeden. Boo-boo. Bike. Duck. Dada." It's like playing Mad Libs for Will and I except for the fact that we have the nouns, and have to fill in the rest of the story. We went to friends of ours baptism for their baby son two weeks ago, and ever since this is what Lucy tells us about that: "Beebee James. Bat. Wa-wa. Cry. Mama. Dada. Home. Swing. Rock. Nap." To which we translate: "We saw baby James get baptised in the water and he cried. Then his mom and dad hugged him and he stopped crying. Then they took him home and put him in his swing where he rocked to sleep for a nap." Pretty good that she can convey all that in only eleven words, and it took me around forty! My other favorite 'sentence' that she repeats multiple times every day that Will is at work: "Dada. Home. Lunch. Nap." To which I translate: "Daddy is at work, and will be home after lunch and after our nap."
I guess most of this post is going to revolve around the things Lucy has said this past month, and I apologize if this is getting a bit boring. It's just that next month she will be on another level completely with her vocabulary, and I don't want to forget all the cute things she said. Besides from updating family and friends on our life, my purpose with this blog is to create my own version of a scrapbook of my children's lives. I hope that one day they can look back on it and know how loved they are, and I can look back on it and remember their childhoods.
Okay, so back to Lucy talking. She has picked up on phrases that Will and I say often, and in fact has pegged each of us with one word. The funny thing is that neither Will or I realized we had a signature word, until Lucy started repeating it when imitating us. While Will is at work and she does something cute or good I will say to her: "When daddy gets home we'll tell him how you colored like a big girl today. What do you think he will say?" Lucy: "Woooow!" Me: "You got dressed so nicely this morning. What do you think daddy will say when we tell him?" Lucy: "Woooow!" And then there's me. Will: "What do you think Mama will say when she finds out you ate a good lunch?" Lucy: "Umhumm." In the below picture, Lucy is pretending to be me on her play phone. How do I know? She just keeps repeating the word "Umhumm!"
Her play phone was given to her by her Aunt Denise and Uncle Bob. When Aunt Denise saw the pictures on the blog of Lucy talking on my cell phone, she decided Lucy needed a phone of her own. After Lucy opened the present from "Bob and Neese" as she now refers to them, Aunt Neese pretended to talk on the phone to someone named Bernie. Aunt Neese and Uncle Bob have since gone home, and Will and I have been trapped into talking to this Bernie person, who Lucy has not forgotten, multiple times a day. Aunt Denise, that Bernie is a talker! Thanks a lot for putting her number on speed dial for Lucy!
Last month Lucy loved saying "No!" to every question we asked her, even if we knew she really meant yes. This month we have reached a break through as she now will say "Yeah" when she means yes. I find it funny that she is talking in the same Midwest American form of English that Will and I do. Oops!
Finally, Lucy loves to play Patty Cake this month, and so cutely will sing "Peetey cake, peetey cake, woll, woll, pat!" She then points to herself and says "Beebee". When asked what her name is, she says "Beebee" and we're not sure if she really thinks her name is Baby, or if she can't say the 'L' part of Lucy and so has found another way of referring to herself. Either way, I have caught myself referring to her as baby way more than I thought I did, and have tried making an effort to call her Lucy!
Okay, enough about what I think are Lucy's cute phrases and sayings. Below is a little less talk and a lot more pictures! Remember this picture from exactly a year ago on Lucy's six month birthday?
Thursday, October 28, 2010
18 Month Sneak Peek


Wednesday, September 29, 2010
From Summer to Fall at 17 Months
Lucy has begun climbing on everything this past month. One of her more useful climbing tricks has allowed her to see out the windows by standing on the heating register and pulling herself up by the window sill. Here she is at the kitchen window watching for Will to come home from work.
She also can now climb into her doll stroller at which point she demands to be buckled (safety first!) and then pushed around the living room.
Happy Fall!



