Opal at 14 Months

The biggest change Opal made this past month is that she is now walking!  It is so adorable to watch, and she has such a proud look on her face as she walks around on legs that look way too short to be doing such a thing.

Fortunately, she still lets me hold her.  Here she is below holding an object she can name, "Ball!"

 Opal also says, "uh oh!", "thank you", "again", and "bear".  We've also heard her attempt to say each of her sister's names, which of course, made them even more devoted to her.

Opal also says, "Draw" and gets a kick out of scribbling with pen or crayon on paper.  

She is starting to sleep better after overcoming two huge set back this month - another round of the stomach flu, and getting four molars.  When the stomach bug hit our house again, this time even more furious than the last, I officially went crazy.  The budget was thrown out the window as I bought a can of Lysol wipes for each room of the house, two new sets of toothbrushes (for every member of the family in both our upstairs and downstairs bathrooms) and several boxes of latex gloves.  The kids were under strict instructions to keep all toothbrushes out of the bathroom, and to apply toothpaste to their brush with a clean q-tip so as to not pass on germs.  Later that night, after my new sanitary rules were in place, I realized that one of my kids had set the table for all three meals with dishes from a dirty dishwasher.  You could have knocked me over with a feather.  Needless to say, everyone came down with the bug a second time (minus Violet and I, who didn't catch either bug and are now calling it our Super Power).  The toughest part of the entire ordeal was that it slowly went through our house again, and lasted for over two weeks between when the first person got it to the last person finished with it.

I'm almost giddy with gratitude that Opal is back to a sleep routine.  The other night I thought that she wasn't ready for bed with her sisters since she had taken a late nap.  After tucking in her sisters, I headed downstairs with Opal.  After I sat down on the couch with her, prepared for a late night, she took me by the hand and led me upstairs and to bed!  God bless you child is all I had to say, as Will was working late that night and I was in need of a break.

She loves books, blankets and bears.  She also loves putting on Lucy's old fashion glasses and making us laugh.

 What a squishy, adorable little baby she is!

 Opal, you are a goof, and we love our sweet and sassy little girl!

Daffodils and Skunk Cabbage in April

I am still recovering form April.  I knew this on an intuitive level, but after compiling all of these photos, it is amazing I am doing as well as I am.  So what if our house is a disaster, we've more than once plucked dirty clothes out of the laundry basket to wear and my usually smooth meal planning and prep has completely fallen off track with eggs and toast a staple "healthy" meal lately.  April rode me hard, and put me away wet (and sometimes covered in puke).  Fortunately, as much as I was able to just do the very next thing required of me with no chance to plan any further, we did make some great memories and survived some other things that make good stories now.

We started off the month of April with a three day trip to Chicago to visit a dentist for Violet.  We had a lovely stay, and not only did the AirBnB we stayed at work out perfectly for us, but we got to visit the Lincoln Park Zoo, a giant baseball bat sculpture that the kids had just studied in their art class, and best of all, visit with good friends of ours. 

Usually we lock Charlie in our garage if we are going to be gone overnight, but on the morning we left for Chicago, he was no where to be found.  I worried about him the entire trip, and was so relieved to have him greet us in the driveway when we got back!  Little did I know that my relief was short lived though, when a few days later we found him injured in our garage with a wound on his back thigh.  We took him to the emergency vet (Charlie only gets injured after hours and on holidays) and found out that he had a BB gun bullet in his back thigh.  We were so heartbroken to hear this, and it put me into the downward spiral of despairing about the right thing to do with our super loving, but very outdoor cat.  In retrospect, the day we found him as a kitten, we should have worked without ceasing to find him a forever home indoors with someone.  Now, at 6 years old, he would be miserable living indoors and the risk and danger of an outdoor life to himself and all the small critters around us is more apparent than ever.  Oh, Charlie!  If only I wasn't so allergic!  Well, it turned out that a bullet wound was the easiest injury he has had so far, as unlike a cat bite, a bullet usually doesn't have any bacteria on it and because it missed hitting all of his major organs, the vet advised us to just let it be.  We kept him locked up in the upstairs of our garage until his wound had healed, and kept the cone of shame on his head for as long as it took for him to figure out how to get it off.  He also figured out how to break out of our upstairs, our smart and loving cat.  We were in the garage one evening, and all of a sudden from the ceiling we heard meowing, and there was Charlie, looking so proud, on top of the ladder that hangs on the garage wall.  Not only did he remove his cone, but he also found an old heat register in the floor upstairs and jumped through it to get to us.  I felt bad putting him back upstairs, but at that point, his wound wasn't completely healed yet.  You better believe we sealed off the heat register too.  I always say that Charlie deserves so much better, but as friends have pointed out to me, he is perfectly happy loving on us and prowling around outside to his heart's content.  So that just leaves me to worry about the welfare of the local wildlife.  

Emma turned 8 this past month, and we celebrated with Will taking the day off of work, presents, all of Emma's favorite foods...

...a spring time hike on our favorite local trail...

...dance class with a picnic dinner, plenty of time to build the Lego sets she received, and a dessert of oatmeal peach bars after dance class was over.  Daffodils were in bloom on the day Emma was born eight years ago, and ever since then, daffodils have become Emma's official flower.  Lucy picked Emma a birthday bouquet from our garden on Emma's birthday.

Two days after Emma's birthday we were hit with a BRUTAL stomach bug, which actually was the second stomach bug we had in only a few short weeks.  Both Emma and Lucy puked for six days straight, and it took medicine to finally get them to stop puking.  Opal also got the bug, and puked on and off for six days but never got dehydrated like Lucy and Emma, thank God.  Opal did however puke on me so many times that I lost track and ran out of clean clothes.  It was shower after shower for both of us, and a full-time job just to manage all of the laundry.  I still have a nervous tick when I hear any sort of cough or gurgle and run for non-carpeted flooring.  For some reason, Violet and I were immune to this bug which I am so grateful for, as who would have taken care of us if I had gotten sick?!  That's right, Will came down with the bug too, and his lasted for almost six days.  

Above is a screenshot of us Facetiming friends of ours who were also sick at the same time, but with a different bug.  

Will was the last one to get sick, and was down and out over Easter weekend which was a bummer for us, but good that he didn't end up missing too much work.  Fortunately, Will was pretty easy to take care of compared to the girls, but the tough part was I didn't get any break or help for the holiday.  All of Lent, leading up to Easter I had promised the girls that we would make homemade pretzels together.  Life had other plans though, and we finally made the pretzels the day before Easter.

We also dyed Easter eggs the day before, and I curled all of their hair in rollers for Easter morning.

We had a nice Easter, and Will was well enough to go to church with us in the morning.

Charlie joined us for our annual Easter egg hunt in our backyard after church.

While the kids played with their Easter goodies, I made the food we were supposed to bring to my parents house for Easter dinner.  Normally Will and I would have tag-teamed this, but since he still wasn't 100% better, we thought it best he didn't contaminate any of the food.  Below center is a photo of the two brownie pizzas I made so that we could celebrate Lucy and Emma's birthdays at my parents house that evening during the Easter festivities.  

Will stayed home while I took the girls to my parents, which was a nice time, although we all missed Will and agreed that it wasn't the same without him there with us too.  It was fun watching the cousins interact with each other, and there is nothing like the spontaneous joy of kids when together to make a gathering feel like a holiday.  And I am speaking for multiple generations, as when I am with my siblings, we have a spontaneous old time as well.  See the after-dinner dish massage happening with a pack of siblings.

Next on our holiday celebrations for April was Lucy's birthday, one week after Easter.  Lucy is now proudly double digits, and I think had an excellent birthday since it was on a Sunday and we had no other commitments that day besides Will's cousin coming to cut our hair.

And Lucy, being the gal of style that she is, found it to be a bonus to have freshly styled hair on her birthday.

Violet had a little bit of a struggle with all of her sisters having birthday before her, but took it in stride.  She continues to make us laugh with her antics, impersonations and general humor.  Here she is below being silly.  In the right hand picture below, notice the two sets of eyes looking at me.

It's hard to believe there was any time left for book learning this past month what with the different festivities and flus and the trip to Chicago, but we did pull off school as I don't want to get too behind.  We missed some extra curriculars when we were sick, but then others were rescheduled, so that was nice.  In clockwise order from top left below: Lucy and her friend in art class, Lucy and her friend in art class again, Lucy and Emma at dance class, the girls and their friends using their yoga teacher's trampoline after class one day, and Emma and her friend in art class.

We had backyard play, and in clockwise order from top left below: Will demonstrating his Skip-It skills, Violet painting, Lucy painting, the girls with a gift of Easter chalk from their aunt and uncle, the girls with a neighbor friend, and Opal with another neighbor friend.

We were healthy and able to attend two different birthday parties for some of our friends and even were able to get a chiropractor appointment in, complete with fort building while waiting for their turns.

As if holding together my family of six through the thick of celebrations and the thin of sickness wasn't enough, April also started the busy season for my business.  I rolled out several new products this past month that I had been working on for well over a year.  And probably the biggest news of all is that my bees LIVED THROUGH THE WINTER!  After 6 years of trying, I finally pulled it off.  But really, Will pulled it off, with me shouting directions to him through the dining room window!

We had such a busy month, and I am thinking of taking the rest of the year off.

These little ladies sure are worth it though, and I'll end this post with the bottom photos in clockwise order from top left: Emma searching for frogs on a hike, Emma in front of "her" daffodils, the first wildflower of the spring spotted on a hike - a skunk cabbage, and finally, me out for a walk with all four of my girls not long after they had all recovered from that brutal stomach flu.  That afternoon, we felt like we could take on the world!  Here's to good health, good celebrations, and rest for this mama! 

Opal at 13 Months

Two days after Opal's First Birthday, she came down with a six day stomach bug.  It was heartbreaking, and scary too.  She had no fever, and so we didn't know if it was something she ate at first, or what, but a few days later when Emma came down with it, we had our answer.  There was lots of crying, holding, carrying, showering and cleaning for Opal and I and I was so very glad when she was feeling better.

Will continues to be Opal's favorite person, although she did prefer only me when she was puking.  Hence all of the showers for her and I.  When Will walks in from work she will start freaking out if he doesn't immediately take her.  After she is safe in Will's arms, she pushes me away and says, "Bye Mom!"

 This little cutie is such a ham, and loves making us laugh with peek-a-boo.  She loves books and says "book" and takes us by the hand to the bookcase so that she can pick out the book for us to read to her.  She has several favorites, and goes to them again and again and even knows what to look for in each book.  One of my favorites is when she meows at cats and barks at dogs in books while pointing at them.  She also remembers that once I put her bare baby foot next to a picture of a bare baby foot in one of her books and now she does that each time we turn to that page.  She also will say "Draw" which means she wants paper and something to write with, just like her big sisters do.

 She is always saying "Bite" which means food and this little gal is such a snacker!  She is always saying "bite" and we will use snacks to get her peacefully through a car trip and a shopping trip too.  I had forgotten that when each of my kids were this age that they needed to eat way more often, and by the time they told you they were hungry, there was no patience for you to prepare food of any kind.  So, I end up feeding her bites as I prepare food in the kitchen and she sits at my heels.

The kids still love playing with Opal, but Opal has developed a mind of her own.  Her high pitched screaming is the result of big sisters not listening to her demands.  The phrase in our house whenever we hear Opal screaming is, "Leave her alone!"

This little lady thinks it is her public service to the world to ensure not only her socks are off at all times, but everyone else's are too.  You could be sitting on the couch and she will crawl up to you and start yanking your socks saying "off".  And then she gets really frustrated if you don't help make that happen.  She also believes strongly in all doors being closed and will crawl to any open door and say "bye" while shutting the door.  No matter if it leaves her stranded on the other side.

Opal will be the one financing my hearing aids in a few years, with all of her screams of frustration. Will's goal is to get Opal in voice lessons as soon as she is old enough, as clearly she has some power in her lungs that needs to be harnessed for good.  Opal, we love you, our sweet and sassy girl!

March 2019

March saw all kinds of weather, and at one point the kids were floating toy sail boats in a tiny river between snow banks in our driveway.  

Spring is slowly making it's way here, and we saw the first signs of it when we found frogs in the drainage hole in our yard.

Another sure sign of spring, despite the still frigid temperatures, was the overwintered butterfly cocoon in a cage in our basement finally hatched.  We released it with many prayers that it would find enough food this early in the season.

We locked Charlie in the garage before we released the butterfly - we didn't want a cat adding to the butterfly's already long list of challenges ahead of it.  We were also so excited to see the crocus sprout in our yard, and even more excited when we saw our honey bees on them!  If I had any doubt before that planting crocus helps bees, I had no doubt now.  These little flowers were my bees first food for the season.

This is the first year that my bees have lived through the winter since I started bee keeping.  What a feeling of relief and happiness, to know that they were able to stay alive despite the extra deep freeze we had in January and February.

We had the pleasure of hiking the same trail several times this past month, all in the hopes of being at the right place at the right time when the spring peepers started up their chorus in the pond on this trail.  Several years ago we happened accidentally upon this amazing event, and have been trying to catch it again ever since.  While we did find frogs and hear some spring peeping, nothing has yet to match the sheer volume and mass of frogs we experienced the very first time we witnessed this.

But, an unexpected bonus to our spring peeper quest was to watch spring unfold a little more each time we hiked this trail.  Someday I may make it a goal to try and hike the same trail once a week for an entire year, just to see the subtle changes in nature that each week brings.

We still had a lot of indoor play this past month as spring came slowly to our part of the world.  In the pictures below in clockwise order from top left: the girls playing together with their newest toy obsession, Violet showing me how she and the baby toy next to her are both spinning on their bottoms (Violet in a spinning, rounded seat called a bilibo and a toy Big Bird that weebles and wobbles but won't fall down), the girls playing baby dolls together, inspired by Opal's new baby doll that she got for her birthday, and finally, all three girls making friendship bracelets with the embroidery floss from my childhood days of making friendship bracelets.  If younger Liz had only known, I would have hardly believed it!

It seems like our laundry has more than doubled with the addition of a fourth daughter, and it's almost at the point where we need to do laundry every day to stay on top of things.  Lately, in an attempt to get the clean baskets of clothes in the hallway from piling up too deep, I've started holding Laundry Parties with the kids.  One kid watches Opal nearby, while the rest of us fold laundry as we all sing loudly to songs playing on my old clock radio.  In clockwise order from top left below: Lucy and Violet at a Laundry Party, a stuffed animal Peep from my cousin that Will made a name tag for which says, "Hi, My Name is Tom".  It took me a while to get this, but once I did, I made him take the name tag off! Violet building a pattern with math manipulatives which is one of her favorite things to do with me when her and I have time together uninterrupted by sisters, Will snuggling Violet and Opal, a fun splurge the girls and I did one night when Will was working late, and finally, playing a vintage game from my youth with Emma.

We took the girls to see a children's play about Jane Goodall this past month, and also noticed that the long awaited bookstore set to open near our house was now just days out from opening.

You better believe we were there to check it out on opening day!  I treated the girls to a new book each, and for a mom that is always telling them no, and if they want something to spend their own money, it was like they hit the jackpot.  In retrospect, I should have bought something for myself too!

We participated in our church's volunteer day this past month, and the girls spent most of their time making bracelets for care packages put together for kids living in poverty.

My sister Cate is one of my kids favorite people, and they love it when she comes over and braids their hair (as their own mom is not skilled in this area) and plays soccer with them (again, not my skill set).  Here they are below with Auntie Cate.  

We also spent time with my cousin and her family this past month and loved seeing our girls all play together like we used to play when we were kids.  So amazing that there are six girls between us now!

I am gearing up for the busy season of my honey business, and besides classes and maintaining the hives that have made it through the winter, I am working towards a new business name and phasing myself out of honey, now that I am allergic to honey bees.  My love for bees is still strong though, and I'm excited that my new business will continue this passion.  The photos below show the girls helping me package up some new items that I will be selling soon.  They were so excited when I offered them the job and told them that I would pay them.  They collated 500 sets of 5 postcards a set and even packaged them into bags for me.  I was impressed that they saw the project from start to finish and kept their excited mood the entire time.

We are at the point in the year where we are counting down the weeks of school.  As I type this we have seven left.  While it is true that we are very established in our routines for the year which adds a level of ease, it is also true that we are getting tired of it and we long for something new and exciting.  Seven more weeks, seven more weeks, seven more weeks.  Here the girls are below in clockwise order from top left: Violet's dance class, Lucy and Violet organizing their schoolwork and art projects for me, art and school projects the kids took pictures of for me, and finally, Lucy and Emma's dance class.

Here are my four girls below.  Opal may not know it yet, but matching your sisters is a very fun thing to do.

Lately, life has been very overwhelming for me.  It is hard to be the leader of this crew, and I feel inadequate when they each need me at the same time and I am barely getting by.  Even just two different girls talking to me at the same time can raise my blood pressure as I try to be fair and ensure they both feel heard while teaching them to take turns and not interrupt.  If I give one girl snuggles, it can be exhausting when someone else gets jealous and feels left out from the snuggles.  And don't even get me started on the short order cook that I am at each meal to ensure all dietary and taste preferences are met and each child has had enough protein, fruit and veggies to calm my worries about low-blood sugar meltdowns or vitamin deficiencies.  But, to see them play together, to share inside jokes with them, to all sing along to our favorite songs - well, this makes it all doable.  I love my pack of girls and I really wouldn't want it any other way.

Opal's First Birthday!

Opal may have been due on Luke's planned birthday (he had a scheduled c-section because of his birth defects), but she came on her own terms.  Here we are a year later, and I'm so glad that her birthday is so close to her brother's in heaven.  Each of my girls have been the rainbow after the storm, and Opal is no exception!  Will is still her favorite person...

 ...and she continues to love me when it's time to eat.

 

When Will's at work, she does allow some snuggles from me too.  Laid back would not be in the top 100 words I would use to describe her, and she is quite vocal when her sisters are keeping her from living her best life.  I am nicely and constructively implying that she screams like a banshee or a teradactyl and causes so much tension in my neck each time she yelps.  She's lucky she's cute.

Opal loves books, and says "Ba" when she wants to read a book.  In the top, left-hand picture below, we turned to the page pictured, and Opal immediately sneezed!  My girl's a reader!

Opal still loves making us laugh with peek-a-boo, and unless she likes the menu, she prefers to be silly rather than eat something she doesn't like.  Her list of preferred foods is growing, fortunately, and right now includes in priority order: graham crackers, pretzels, taco meat, sloppy Joe meat, waffles, crackers, blueberries, mango, cucumber, pear, apple, steamed carrots, green beans and peas, veggie or chicken soup, and plain pasta.  Sometimes she will eat oatmeal if it is congealed and she can feed it to herself.

Opal now says "Bye" whenever she sees us go out the door, even if it is just to take the trash out.  She says "Hot" when she sees steam coming off of stuff cooking in the kitchen or off the food on the table.  She says "Ssssss" when she's yanking off her socks and then trying to put them back on by herself, and also "Sssss" when she wants to go on her swing outside.  To me, the funniest thing she says is "Hi?" when she is about to do something that she believes is either not allowed, or dangerous. It's like she is saying, "Hello, is anyone watching me?  Please stop me as I can't control my impulses!"

Opal doesn't sleep very well, and because we've had three other children who have worn us down and frankly, broken our will to find a sleep solution, we get her to sleep in any way we can, while ignoring any bad habits it may be forming.  Fortunately we now know that she will outgrow it, just like her sisters did.  Sadly, this probably won't be until age 3 at least.  Until then, it is survival!

The day before Opal's first birthday we celebrated with both sets of Grandparents, and an aunt and an uncle who live close by.  We had a busy day, with a volunteer session at our church and so we did a lot of food prep the day before.  Everything was running right on schedule until Opal fell asleep minutes before we were supposed to leave the volunteer outing and head home.  She of course woke up as soon as we put her in her carseat, and so had a 5 minute nap the entire day.  When we got home, we had a few hours to finish getting the food ready for her party.  I had made one and a half cakes for her, so that the following day we could eat the smaller cake on her actual birthday.  Our kitchen is small, and with all of the food prep going on, I iced the cakes on top of our ceramic cook top stove.  Little did we know that Will had accidentally turned the wrong burner on the stove and as I moved the smaller cake to the granite counter top to clear up the stove, the glass pan exploded into thousands of pieces.  Glass confetti was everywhere - and worst of all, it sprinkled the larger cake like sugar crystals.  All of the cake was garbage.  I had tiny flecks of glass in my hands and arms and was lucky it wasn't worse.  To literally ice this cake of a day, while Will and I were busy cleaning up the mess in the kitchen, one of our children had a bathroom problem, and decided to clean it up themselves.  This is when it literally hit the fan.  With our guests due any minute now, I called my parents and they picked up an apple pie on the way to our house so that we could put a candle in something for Opal.  I did take a picture of the iced cake before it blew up, so at least we have that for the memory book.  Sadly, Opal did not like the apple pie, but seemed content to eat graham crackers, her favorite food anyways.  

I had put so much love and care into that made from scratch banana cake for my baby's first birthday, that it was really hard for me to get over putting it in the trash.  I finally had Will do it, several days later.   There was a silver lining though.  A few days prior to Opal's party, Will had cleaned off Luke's grave from the Christmas and birthday decorations.  It was all still in his trunk.  We had planned on going to the party store to let Opal pick out a birthday balloon for her party, but ran out of time with all of the clean up.  That's when Will remembered Luke's birthday balloon, and would you believe it still floated, almost a month later?  

I think Opal thoroughly enjoyed her party, and she did an amazing job, considering she only took a 5 minute nap that day.

The following day, we had a nice, quiet day at home with her.  

 A one year old doesn't need much, and so I encouraged the girls to make her gifts or regift her some of the toys they may have outgrown.  Emma made her a pillow case with a little help from me for her first, big girl pillow.  Emma also made her a piece of decorated paper, covered in packaging tape which turned out to be one of her favorite gifts, as Opal loves chewing on paper and this paper couldn't be choked on!

 Lucy gave Opal a backpack that she had outgrown, and Violet made Opal a set of birthday crowns, as well as gave her one of her favorite baby dolls named Bonnie the Bee.  I just loved seeing their generosity and creativity straight from their hearts for their beloved baby sister.  I made Opal a book about the day she was born (I made each of the girls this for their first birthday), and Will cut her name out of wood and painted it (which he did for each of the girls first birthday as well) to hang in her room.  Finally, she got a few books, some Duplos, and a baby doll that I found on eBay to match the baby doll that each of her sisters got on their first birthdays.  Since the doll came from eBay, it had no clothes, and of course I didn't remember this until two nights before her birthday.  I ended up using one of Opal's newborn sleepers, and cut it down to size and sewed it up and it fit like a charm!  In fact, I may do this for each of the girls' baby dolls!

 We made her a little batch of arrowroot cookies for her birthday, since I wanted her to have something a bit more special than graham crackers and I was all out of ripe bananas.  She liked the cookie, and got a kick out of us all singing to her and blowing out her candle as she repeated "hot", "hot".

This little lady is so very loved.  Here she is below, being supported with the arms of her family all around her, getting measured for the first time on our family growth chart.  I think this picture sums up our little lady in our family so well.

Happy first birthday Opal!  You have brought so much to our family, and we love you so very much!