Seen and Heard at 31 Months

Emma is now closer to three than she is to two and still enjoys telling people that she is in fact, three.  In my mind she seems so grown up from the day she turned two.  If you recall on her second birthday we got her a "like new" tricycle.  She wasn't too interested in it all summer and preferred to scoot around on her pedal-free ride on toys.  Now that the weather is cold, of course Emma has taken to her trike like a penguin to ice.

Emma can also go to the bathroom all by herself now, and even wipe herself after she pees.  This is huge for me, and extremely liberating for both of us.  I do however miss the little kisses and hugs she would give me after I helped her in the bathroom.  She also has gotten quite good at putting her pants on all by herself and is insulted if I offer any help.  Here's my little independent girl below. 

Emma loves carrying around tiny objects that she refers to as "choking hazards".  She loves wearing play rings all day long and usually has multiple on each hand.  Twice a day, at nap time and bedtime, we have the same conversation about how we can't wear rings to bed.  Emma pointed out the other night that Mama and Daddy wear rings to bed and left me without a response.  The next day I had a response though, and the new rule is that adults can wear rings to bed, but not kids because they are, you guessed, choking hazards.

Emma's other favorite accessory this month are tutu's.  We also have the rule that you cannot wear tutu's to bed - kids or adults.  Emma loves her tutus and has refused to get dressed on several occasions because all of her tutus were in the wash.

Emma has little tolerance for the colder weather and takes forever to get dressed to go outside.  With daylight being so short these days, Emma usually emerges outside just as the sun is setting and Lucy is coming in for the night.  If Will is home however, Emma goes outside without hesitation.  I guess the parent sitting at the picnic table reading a newspaper versus the parent giving out free wheelbarrow rides is a no brainer.

Emma continues to be our little comedian and I've noticed that when she is with older kids she lays on the comedy quite thick.  I am wondering if this is her way of making sure she is seen and heard.  She has a soft spot for the younger kids too though.  Here she is below showing her friend William how the air vents work at the library.

Our Emma is definitely seen and heard!

The Count Down

We are sick this week, and as luck would have it, Will is working late three nights this week too.  So, to get through being sick and single parenting it, I am counting down to happy things.

I am counting down till this weekend when I can get some solid naps in and hopefully kick this cold to the curb.

I am counting down to Thanksgiving, when Will has a five day weekend with us and we put up our Christmas Tree.
 
I am counting down till tomorrow when a piece of artwork that I have had in the works since this summer through a studio in Ohio will finally arrive at my doorstep.  Please pull through FedEx!

But most of all, I am counting down until May, when the newest addition of our family will be here!

Yup, Baby Timmerman FOUR is due this coming May and we are all very excited about the newest member of our family!  Will our new baby be a boy or a girl?  Will our new baby be healthy?  Will our new baby like to sleep?  Either way, our baby is here now, growing warm and cozy in my belly and we are already including this little one in our family traditions.  I am very excited that by Christmas time we should know the gender and will be able to add another stocking to our line up as well as get a Christmas ornament with the baby's name on it.  

There is just one glitch to count downs however, and if I'm not careful, I could miss being present in the moment while I am busy counting down.  This is a challenge for me every pregnancy since I lost Luke, and I wish I could say that it has gotten easier with each healthy pregnancy.  Unfortunately, it has not, and no matter what my brain tells me, my heart just doesn't breathe easy until my baby is out of my belly and breathing safely in my arms.  So, here's to count downs, a healthy Baby T Four, and my continual journey of learning to enjoy more present moments!

October Happenings

October flew by with preparations for winter in our yard and garden, a trip to Lansing, Will's birthday, and of course Halloween.  Here the girls are below counting the winter squash we grew in our neighbors yard to save on space in our own garden.  

As you can see above, there was plenty to share.  We also finally picked our last crop of green beans, tomatoes, peppers, basil and rhubarb.  A hard frost claimed the plants the night after we picked the above produce, and I will be the first to tell you I was relieved!  We still have parsley, cabbage, carrots, beets, swiss chard and peas chilling in our garden, but they don't overwhelm me like the other veggies with their sheer bulk and do okay in the early season frosts.

Our chickens aren't as happy about the colder weather and have definitely slowed down their egg production.  We went from about ten eggs a day this past spring to two eggs on a good day now.  Our handful of loyal customers have had to go elsewhere for their eggs, but fortunately for us, we haven't had to buy eggs at the store yet.  Here are our chickens below, enjoying a pot luck of fridge leftovers.  I had yogurt a bit past it's prime for human taste that the chickens went wild for.  It was entertaining to watch the chickens faces covered in white cream.

Will had a meeting at Michigan State on the first Saturday of this past month so instead of missing him on the weekend, the girls and I decided to tag along and visit my aunt who lives in Lansing while Will was working.  We visited my aunt's favorite places and restaurants in town and even enjoyed time spent in the Children's Garden at MSU.  A great day was had by all, and I was happy that my kids got to see a new side of their aunt who treated me to many a weekend in Lansing when I was a kid.

Will's birthday was on Sunday this year, which ensured an entire weekend of festivities.  On Saturday night we went out to a nice Italian restaurant with Will's parents and on Sunday we spent the day on a fall color drive, at a cider mill where we narrowly escaped being attacked by a pair of hungry goats when we unwittingly walked into their pen, pumpkin picking, opening presents and enjoying birthday dessert.

It was a beautiful sunny day on Will's birthday.  Interestingly enough, as we were driving to go pumpkin picking, we saw a giant X in the sky - and this was AFTER the great goat escape.  We are hoping this is a positive omen on Will's birthday!?!  Here we are below pumpkin picking in our friends giant garden.

We had fun outside in shorter bursts this past month because of the the falling temperatures.  In the top left picture below, the girls discovered the warm air coming out of the dryer vent one afternoon after they had convinced me they were too warm to wear jackets.  Busted!  They put jackets on after that!

Early in the summer we had promised the girls that they could get a treat from the ice cream truck the next time they filled up their apple tree.  This helped quiet the begging every time we heard the tell-tale jingle coming down the street.  Once they upheld their end of the bargain however, the ice cream truck stopped coming!  It finally came by one afternoon this past month right at dinner time.  A deal's a deal, and I was just happy that they could experience their hard-earned ice cream truck treat before they forgot all about the lesson in patience they had learned.  Who knows where the truck was all summer, but we were all excited to spend a small fortune and ruin our dinner.  Summer was officially complete!

This fall has not been kind to Lucy's allergies.  Here she is below after sneezing probably about fifty times in a row, with force so strong it caused her to repeatedly bash her head into things.  I swear I felt really bad for her but also had to take a picture and stifle my laughter.  Poor thing!  Click.

Speaking of allergies, it is a well-known fact that I am really allergic to cats.  Earlier this month, two kittens found their way into our garage.  At first we tried chasing them out but they just kept coming back.  Both of them would just stare at us while we worked and played in the yard, meowing like whiny toddlers.  Finally, we couldn't take the meowing anymore and fed them a piece of pumpkin pie.  After texting several people in the know about cats, we decided that pumpkin pie might not be the best choice for all creatures, despite the fact that our children and chickens love it.  We bought a small bag of cat food, and our fates were sealed.  Sadly, one of the kittens disappeared not long after.  It was as if the remaining cat turned all of it's attention on us at that point though, and became the friendliest, cuddliest cat you ever did see.  We took the kitten to the vet and learned that he is a healthy two month old boy kitten, and is now officially ours.  Because of my allergies the cat is living in our garage, but the vet assured us that he would be just fine with a warm, insulated cat bed, food, water and of course, love.  It is safe to say that Lucy is in love.  I voted for the cat to be called Sassafrass, as it seems Lucy gets extremely sassy whenever the cat is around.  When I asked her about why she couldn't handle sharing the cat or coming inside to eat, she told me that she just "loves the cat so much that she can hardly stand it."  We have named him Charlie, although I still call him Sassafrass McGee when Lucy is being particularly possessive.

Charlie must think that Lucy is his mom, because he lets her carry him around everywhere and will sit patiently in the basket of the girls' bikes while going for a spin and was even caught driving Lucy's play car.  Lucy is obsessed with the cat, and since the weather is getting colder, I have been letting her go outside by herself while I keep a close eye on her from the kitchen window.  This is a big step for us, and although hard for me to let my guard down while I am inside and she is outside, I do think this is an important milestone.  She has proven herself trustworthy so far, and I am proud and warmer because of it.  Here Lucy is below using her new found maturity to tell me all about why Emma isn't trustworthy.

She has matured in many ways.  Here are some things that she has shocked me with this past month:

Lucy: "Mom, my stomach hurts."  Me:  "What does it feel like?"  Lucy: "Like I swallowed gasoline."

Lucy: "Mom, where can I find a man to marry?" Me: "Uhhhh...."

Lucy: "When I go to college, I'm going to get a boyfriend."  Me: "Ummmm..."

Here Lucy is below dressed as a bride.  Will thought she was pretending to be the mother of Jesus.  He was disappointed to find out otherwise.

 Lucy has been absorbing the written language like crazy this past month too.  It was like overnight a light bulb went on in her head and she went from writing her name one day to writing every family member's name, and words like Boo, Zoo, Bear, Baby, Out and No.  It has been amazing to watch and I have to say that it has been all her - I really can't say what I have done or not done besides read to her and play with games, puzzles and iPad apps involving the alphabet.  It will be interesting to see how Emma learns to see if I can take more responsibility for this learning or not.  Below is Lucy busily writing a letter to her friends Kayla and Emily.  It was the first letters where she officially wrote everything on her own.  She was so proud!

 Lucy's brain isn't the only thing growing.  This fall is the first time that I actually had to go to the store and buy Lucy clothes other than underwear, socks and the occasional special holiday outfit.  We have been super blessed with generous friends giving us their high quality hand me downs as well as relatives who have bought enough clothes as gifts to fill in any gaps.  Lucy has grown so much and so fast this past month that we literally had no clothes that fit her.  Even the bin of hand me downs I have saved in her new size don't fit right and I am wondering if she is growing into her own unique body type and will no longer be able to just wear any clothes that are her size, and will instead have to shop like I do - based on which brand or style fits as opposed to the size.  We had fun shopping and trying on clothes even though it felt like out of the crazy amounts of clothes she so patiently tried on, only a small handful actually fit.  We are beginning to find the style and brand that works for her though and Lucy didn't seem to mind.  Let's hope the fun lasts through the teenage years!

I ended up finding a handful of clothes at Kohl's but decided to put them on hold and try our luck at the children's resale shop by our house.  Not only did I find the girl's Halloween costumes, but I found even better things at the resale shop and didn't have to spend a dime at the big box store after all.  I was so happy to actually spend less money, on higher quality clothes at a locally owned business!  A win, win, win if you ask me!

Lucy and Emma have played great this past month.  Here they are below singing a duet in the left hand picture, and sharing the iPad quite nicely in the right hand picture.

I will end this post with a video showcasing one of Lucy and Emma's favorite activities this past month - putting on performances.  It is really entertaining for Will and I to watch and it makes me happy to see the two of them playing so well together.  Make sure your volume is down, as these girls can really belt out a tune.

A Sweet Halloween

Halloween snuck up on me this year and was starting to give me some real, procrastinator-style nightmares.  A week and a half before the Big Candy Day, I still had no costumes for the girls.  This is very unlike me and I was starting to panic - especially since Lucy and Emma kept changing their minds about what they wanted to be.  I learned on Lucy's first Halloween that all of the good kids costumes are gone by Labor Day.  Thank goodness for our neighborhood children's resale shop.  One afternoon while the girls were napping I saw a pair of the cutest Halloween costumes posted on the resale shop's Facebook page.  I held my breath as I clicked on the images to see what sizes they were.  It was my lucky day, as they were exactly Lucy and Emma's sizes!  Now if only they didn't get snatched up by some other sister duo before my kids were up from their naps!  As soon as the girls were up we raced downtown and much to my delight, the pair of costumes were still available.  I switched gears from offense to defense.  Now that the prize was in my hands, I had to convince the girls that they wanted to be this lovely, ready-to-go, fit-over-winter-coats, perfectly sized, sweet-dreams-are-made-of-these, check off my to-do list costumes.  And did I mention they were on sale AND I had a coupon?  Here is my Cupcake and my Ice Cream Cone, looking very sweet in their Mama-Cashed-in-on-Some-Good-Karma Halloween costumes, sprinkling their sugar at our annual Farmer's Market Trick or Treating.

I love taking the kids Trick or Treating at the farmer's market.  After visiting with the vendors all summer, it's almost like taking my kids to see neighbors, who give the proper oohs and aahs as the kids model their costumes.  Plus, they usually give out really great treats - organic lollipops, apples, mini pumpkins and homemade soap.  I would be content if this was it for our Halloween festivities.  That's not to say however, that we didn't enjoy a couple more Halloween events.  Here are the girls below, excited to wear their costumes to dance class the day before Halloween.

Halloween costumes may fall on my shoulders every year so it is only fair that pumpkin carving falls on Will's capable shoulders.  Here the girls are below helping Will carve up the pumpkins.

This is the first Halloween that Lucy has started to get into the spookier side of things.  Here she is below, making her scariest faces.

Emma is really only into the holiday for the candy and can take or leave the spookiness.  I caught Emma in the candy bowl we had prepared for the Trick or Treaters below.

And here are the girls ready to go out on Halloween!  It was an unusually mild evening as far as Michigan weather goes in late October, however it steadily rained.  We went with friends of ours and the four kids didn't seem too phased by the precipitation.  At some point Lucy told us that she was "miserable" and ready to go home but would take off running as soon as she saw the next porch light on.

Here are the girls below, sorting, trading and sampling their candy treasure.

The day after Halloween the resale shop that I bought the costumes from held a contest on Facebook for the cutest Halloween costumes purchased at their store.  We are proud to say that the girls were one of the winners!  Here they are below, holding their gift certificate that they won.  We already used it to buy Lucy's Christmas dress.  My good Karma continues!

We hope you had a sweet Halloween too!

Emma's Half Birthday

I am happy to report that ALL of Emma's teeth are finally in!  She has returned to her sunny little self, and peace and harmony has been restored once again at the Timmerman house.  Now if Emma could conquer her fears, maybe she would sleep through the night in her own bed.  The other night when I was tucking Emma in I asked her what she was afraid of.  She told me, "Garbage trucks and 'wood chips'."  It took me several questions to figure out what about 'wood chips' are so scary.  I mean, I for one cannot get the image from Fargo out of my mind, but I know for a fact she has never seen that movie!  Finally, she told me that 'wood chips' are in the Puff the Magic Dragon song book that we read regularly.  The light bulb went on for me then - pirate ships!  Emma is afraid of garbage trucks and pirate ships.  Fortunately for us, the pirate ships do not come by once a week like the garbage trucks.

I'll tell you something that I am afraid of - being caught unprepared in the midst of a mothering moment in public.  These fears came true last week after story time at the library.  The girls needed to use the bathroom and our library has a pint-sized toilet just their size that usually makes potty time in public a breeze.  Lucy used the potty without a hitch, and then it was Emma's turn.  Usually I hold her on the regular sized toilets so she doesn't fall in, but I let her take care of business this time, since she could get on this child-sized toilet all by herself.  No sooner did she sit down, then her pee shot straight out of her onto her pants, underwear, shoes and the floor.  I am embarrassed to admit that I tried catching the stream with my bare hands to avoid her pants getting wet.  That's the funny thing about liquid though - it's hard to catch.  I was left with a problem on my hands in more ways than one.  I had no diaper bag with a set of spare clothes.  I couldn't very well put the wet pants on her and yet I couldn't let her walk out of the library with nothing but a shirt on either.  In a moment of inspiration I noticed Lucy was wearing a dress with leggings... we left the library giggling with Emma wearing Lucy's leggings commando and Lucy looking none the less fashionable in her dress.  Here the pair are below, after Lucy rescued the day.

Emma's big sister is always looking out for her, even when it comes time for picture taking.  It may look like Lucy is choking Emma, but I assure you, she is just making sure Emma looks at the camera.

Emma doesn't get away with much with Lucy around and I have been trying to figure out how to encourage Lucy to keep Emma safe but to not be a tattletale either.  It seems Emma is always in to something.  Here she is below before I caught her with my phone taking pictures.  According to Will the former art teacher, the below picture has a very nice visual flow to it.

 I found Emma by following the paper trail to this...

I have heard Emma ask me for something, and then when she doesn't like the answer, go ask Will.  The other day I overheard this conversation:

Emma: "I want a donut."

Will: "We just ate dinner.  We can have a donut in the morning."

Emma: "But Daddy!  The donuts are going to melt!"

Happy half birthday to our funny, curious and sweet girl Emma!

Ah, September

The learning curve of our new life seems to be leveling off.  The transition of summer into September was relatively painless.  It helped that we had already adjusted to Will being back to work for quite some time and that the girls really are becoming quite independent.  That's not to say that Will's first day of school wasn't without it's hiccups at home.  Don't get me wrong, it was nothing like Will's first day back to school last Fall.  However, it did have me mopping and cleaning up after my independent girls for a good part of our morning.  Why is it that the moment I am on the phone, Lucy and Emma devise all sorts of new and creative ways to get into trouble?  I needed to answer a call regarding the sale of some of our math posters and the girls were ignoring my wild hand gestures to be quiet and leave me alone.  So naturally, I locked myself into the office closet where they could no longer see me and I could no longer hear them.  I emerged no longer than five minutes later to a quiet house.  Suspicious, I found the two of them in the kitchen, standing on chairs pulled up next to the counter cracking eggs.  Emma turned when she saw me and proudly told me, "Mom!  We're making scramble eggs!"  My heart sank as I realized that they had discovered the full basket of about two to three dozen fresh eggs on the counter.  My heart slipped and splatted on the ground when I saw the egg yolk dripping off the counter, the bowl of scrambled eggs with finely shattered egg shells and the pile of cracked eggs on the counter.  They had even added milk to the eggs.  The below picture does not do the mess justice.

There was nothing to do but start cleaning and of course heat up the eggs.  We had scrambled eggs for lunch and neither girl commented on the crunch.  As I was cleaning up, I couldn't help but have this deep thought about parenthood - there really is no free ride.  A quiet phone call is paid for in egg yolk counters, cupboards and floors.  A kid-free night out is paid for with both kids waking up the minute we come home and spending the rest of the night in our bed.  Distraction-free time to pay the bills is paid in double by the destroyed house, toys and household items strewn everywhere.  Ah, parenthood.

But then there is Ah, childhood.  And watching Ah, childhood definitely helps equal out the Ah, parenthood parts.  Kids sure know how to let go and live in the moment...

They know how to embrace joy from the smallest of things.  And watching their excitement over each new thing learned is an amazing feeling.

Their silliness...along with their dad's...

...as well as watching their imaginations unfold is something I wouldn't miss for all of the uncracked eggs in the world.

Since this is Lucy's last year before going to Kindergarten, I have been reading lots of books (big shock, I know!) about kids, how they develop, and their natural curiosity and love for learning.  It's not so much about me teaching Lucy, but more about me providing the environment for learning to naturally unfold for her.  I am keeping my mind open to all possibilities for next year, including the wonderful public school three doors down from us, private school options and homeschooling.  In the meantime, I am trying not to take having Lucy home with me for granted, even between the time-outs, sassiness and her being over naps.  It is also nice that Lucy and Emma have each other as well.  Their relationship is as follows - Lucy is constantly practicing self-control and the consequences from losing said self-control when Emma doesn't follow Lucy's directions on how to play, and Emma is constantly rebelling and then minutes later doing whatever it takes to make Lucy happy again.

We were able to find a dance studio that let Emma join, despite the age range of most beginner studio classes being for three to five year olds.  We are really happy with the studio we found, and Lucy and Emma's good friend is also in class with them.  Emma is so proud to be in a class with the big kids.

I have been trying to find practical applications to various skills that Pre-K kids should learn and fell into embroidery this summer.  The girls love sewing with yarn through burlap, which has enough holes evenly distributed throughout the fabric to make pushing the needle in and out doable for their little hands.  It is amazing to me how fast Lucy went from random stitching to being able to follow a pattern and sew in backstitch.  I am thinking this could be a good way for Lucy to learn her alphabet - through stitching.  Emma enjoys being along for the ride.

Friends of ours invited us to a Family Fun Day at a park by their house this past month, and we had a great time.  Here the girls are below after getting their face painted.  Lucy was super excited about having lipstick for the first time, but found out that there must be an art form to eating a hot dog while wearing lipstick because when the hot dog was gone, so was her lipstick.

We also enjoyed live music, wagon rides, cricket catching and t-shirt painting with our friends.  It was a great morning.

Our fall harvest is in full swing and I have to say that I am ready for the garden to be done.  I am at the point where I am OVER green beans, pears, tomatoes, apples, potatoes and anything else our garden seems to be tirelessly producing still.  Will is going to be hard-pressed to find me running out to cover the crops before a frost this fall.  A frost will be nature's way of letting me off the hook of all of this food production!  Canning, freezing, drying, fermenting...I'm over it!  This is an important milestone for us to remember next spring when we ambitiously plant our garden.  We have reached our maximum capacity!  The below picture I am most proud of is the crock pot of stew in which all of the ingredients except the beef were from our garden.  That is a really nice feeling, despite my exhaustion with homegrown produce.  Also, I must note that the apples are not from our yard, but from the courtyard at Will's school.  Our apple trees didn't do so hot this year so I think we are going to give them one more year before we decide if we should pull them out and plant something a bit more hardy.  The five apples from each tree were delicious, but too little for the space they are taking up.

Ah, September!  We are already enjoying October and looking forward to the first frost!

Emma at 29 Months

Emma has been working on her last pair of two year molars and as I type this, they are about 50% through.  I am really hoping for a complete mood turnaround when those teeth are finished ripping through Emma's gums.  She hasn't been sleeping well and has been clingy and cranky as well.  Yesterday I took a shower while she stood outside the curtain tearfully repeating, "Mama, I need you, Mama, I need you" over and over again.  When I ask her what she needs, she just says, "I need you."  Emma has little tolerance for Will, and even less tolerance for Lucy.  All she wants is me, which is hard to do 24/7.  With that being said, the following pictures and stories of Emma this past month will reveal her good moments and the fact that she is still our sweet, funny and cuddly little girl.  Here she is below baby-wearing her doll much like I think she would like to be attached to me.

Emma is our little thrill seeker and likes to swing with her head upside down.  It scares the heck out of me, but as you can see below, she loves it.

 Emma likes wearing her fairy tutu everywhere she goes...

...and enjoys playing dress up with lots of jewelry.

However, when it comes to getting dressed in the morning, she really doesn't have a preference about what she wears and is fine with me picking out her clothes.  This is a change for me, as Lucy has been picking out her clothes as soon as she learned how to open her dresser drawers and would sooner stay in her room forever than wear something I picked out for her.  Emma would really rather not be bothered by outfit coordination and is happy to have the decisions made for her.

She's definitely a goof-ball.  Here she is below after she discovered the cold-air vents Marilyn Monroe style while we were shopping.

I've noticed that when she is hanging out with the older kids, which happens more than not, she pulls out all of her comedy tricks.  Here she is below with her friend Grace who Emma refers to as her "best friend."  Grace is Lucy's age, but that doesn't stop Emma.  In fact, all of Emma's friends are her "best friends."  She talks about being best friends all the time and when she is fighting with Lucy will yell, "You're not my best friend any more!"

Emma likes to help.  Well, let me explain with an example that shows her mood this month combined with her underlying desire to be a big girl and her lack of tolerance for Lucy.

Me: "Emma, can you please get the ketchup out of the fridge?"
Emma: "NO.  CAN'T.  I'm too busy."
Lucy: "I'll get it Mom!"
Emma: "NOOOOOOOO!  I GET IT!  "
Lucy: "Mom!  Emma hit me!"
Emma: "Lucy not let me get the ketchup!  I get the ketchup!  I get the ketchup!"

The below pictures will make the above scenario seem impossible, but here they are anyways.  Below, Emma is happily helping me whip cream for some homemade, you guessed it, whipped cream.

In the next picture, Emma wanted to help Will push the stroller.  She ended up just hanging from the handle bar.

Finally, in the next picture, Emma took it upon herself to help keep the chickens from going through the fence into our neighbor's yard after we let them out of their pen to graze on the bugs and grass in our yard.  Here she is below, keeping guard with a rake.

I asked Emma the other day why she didn't like sleeping in her own bed, as she keeps sneaking into ours in the middle of the night.  Emma responded with, "Because there are no people in my bed!"  I had no response for this.  Here is Emma below, sleeping in her bed so sweetly I had to take a picture.  I'm sure two hours later she had climbed into our bed.

Let's hope by next month's post those molars will be done wrecking havoc on our poor girl!